Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan 2026-04-15T23:53:09Z https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/feed/atom/ WordPress /wp-content/uploads/sites/1404601/2019/11/cropped-OG-2019-08-27-11-49-35-1-32x32.jpg On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[How to handle parental alienation during a custody dispute]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=48147 2026-04-15T23:53:09Z 2026-04-15T23:53:09Z Allegations of parental alienation can intensify conflict between co-parents and create lasting harm to an entire family if not addressed carefully. Parental alienation generally refers to a pattern of behavior in which one parent attempts to damage a child’s relationship with their other parent. Alienation may begin with negative comments, limiting contact or creating an environment where the child feels pressured to choose sides. The impact of alienation can be significant for both a child and their targeted parent. Children may experience confusion, guilt, anxiety and feelings of divided loyalty. They may begin to internalize negative beliefs about the targeted parent without fully understanding why, which can affect their emotional development and long-term relationships. For the targeted parent, alienation can lead to frustration, sadness and a sense of helplessness, especially when efforts to maintain a connection are met with resistance or rejection.

Spotting and addressing signs of parental alienation

Recognizing the signs of parental alienation early is important. Some common indicators include a child expressing strong, unjustified hostility toward one parent, repeating adult-like criticisms or refusing to honor one parent’s scheduled time with them without a clear reason. Other signs may include a sudden shift in the child’s behavior, lack of ambivalence about the rejected parent or automatic alignment with the other parent in conflicts. While these behaviors can have multiple causes, consistent patterns may warrant closer attention. Addressing parental alienation requires a thoughtful and measured approach. One of the first steps is to document any concerning behaviors and interactions. Keeping detailed records of missed parenting time, communication issues or instances where the child appears influenced can also be helpful. Legal remedies may include modifying custody arrangements, enforcing parenting time orders or requesting a custody evaluation. Judges may order reunification therapy or other interventions designed to repair the parent-child relationship. Working with an experienced legal team can help ensure that concerns are presented clearly and supported by evidence. The targeted parent can play an important role in maintaining a positive relationship with their child. Consistency, patience and reassurance are key. Even when a child appears distant, continuing to show up, communicate calmly and avoid speaking negatively about the other parent can help rebuild trust over time. Reacting with anger or defensiveness may unintentionally reinforce the alienation. Throughout the process, the affected child’s well-being must remain the central focus. While it is natural to feel hurt or frustrated, prioritizing the child’s emotional health and stability throughout the process is key. Addressing parental alienation is rarely simple, but with a strong combination of legal support, professional intervention and steady parenting, more balanced custody outcomes are possible.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[How mediation can protect your privacy during divorce]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=48144 2026-04-10T14:23:18Z 2026-04-10T14:23:18Z How mediation protects privacy Typically, the terms set during a divorce need to reflect what happened during the marriage. Dividing property requires an evaluation of marital finances. Disclosing all of the household’s resources and financial obligations in open court could lead to unwanted scrutiny. Addressing custody matters may require discussion about personal conduct and household schedules that people may not want to have included in the public record. Couples worried about divorce issues and their privacy can choose mediation as a means of protecting their personal and financial privacy and avoiding the stress that comes from contested divorces litigated in open court. The confidential nature of mediation makes it possible for spouses to discuss personal and private matters, ranging from a substance abuse disorder that could affect parenting time allocations to the appropriate use of marital property while conducting an extramarital affair, without those details permanently impacting the reputation of either spouse. Mediation also provides an opportunity to push for specific terms and may allow for a faster divorce timeline than litigation. Addressing divorce disagreements in a private mediation session can be a beneficial choice for those in high-profile positions and those generally concerned about protecting their privacy. Confidentiality is one of several benefits that make divorce mediation worth considering at the end of a marriage.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[Taking action during ‘divorce month’]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=48142 2026-01-24T18:12:37Z 2026-01-24T18:12:37Z increase in initial divorce consultations in January. As many as a third of all divorces may begin in January, even if spouses technically file paperwork in another month. What steps might those contemplating a divorce consultation in January need to take?

Begin collecting records

There are numerous forms of documentation typically necessary for a divorce. Financial records, ownership paperwork and even records related to parenting matters can all play critical roles in divorce proceedings. Most people need to begin collecting documentation long before they ever discuss divorce with their spouses or file paperwork with the courts.

Establish reasonable expectations

Popular media depictions of divorce often give people unrealistic ideas about what to expect. They picture a dramatic showdown in family court where a judge gives them justice. They hope for a support order or property division decree that leaves them with almost everything and their spouse with much less. They may fantasize about raising their kids on their own without the involvement of their spouse. Spouses need to understand the statutes that apply to divorce proceedings and how a judge is likely to resolve matters given their unique family circumstances. Frequently, it may take weeks or even months after a first consultation for divorce plans to begin taking shape. Spouses often do not file in January, but they may begin the process of preparing for a filing at the beginning of the year. The sooner people preparing for divorce secure legal guidance and insight, the better their chances of completing their divorce with a favorable outcome. Anyone seriously considering divorce in the New Year may benefit from discussing their circumstances and learning about the law. Contacting the Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan can be helpful for those considering divorce. Click here or call 916-724-1722 to schedule an initial consultation.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[5 potential benefits of pursuing divorce mediation]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=48100 2025-04-23T21:57:37Z 2025-04-23T21:57:37Z Lower overall costs People sometimes assume that mediation is expensive. After all, they have to pay for the services of a legal professional who acts as their mediator in addition to covering basic divorce costs and the fees of their individual lawyers. When mediation is successful, spouses may find that they pay less for the divorce. Uncontested divorces typically cost a fraction of what litigated divorces cost.

A confidential process

Traditional divorce litigation forces people to make many disclosures in court. They have to provide information about their finances and assets. They may need to testify about marital issues that are deeply personal. Unlike divorce litigation, mediation is a confidential process. Spouses can talk about their major concerns without them becoming part of the public record.

Enhanced spousal control

Litigated divorce can be a very disempowering experience. Spouses have to hand over authority to judge who decides how to divide their property and their parental rights. When couples choose mediation, they can set their own terms. Each spouse has the option of compromising in certain areas and pushing for certain terms that matter the most to them.

A faster divorce timeline

Litigated divorce proceedings can take more than a year to resolve in some cases. The more family law cases waiting for a judge's review and the more disputes spouses cannot resolve with one another, the longer it may ultimately take to address all of their disagreements. Mediation is often much faster, with some spouses resolving their disputes in as little as a single mediation session.

Reduced stress

The ability to control costs, maintain privacy and prioritize specific terms can reduce how stressful the divorce process is for the spouses. The reduction in conflict can also make it less stressful for spouses to raise their children together after they divorce. Exploring the potential benefits of divorce mediation can help people determine whether mediation is a realistic option given their current circumstances. For many couples, mediation is preferable to a traditional, litigated divorce.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[What to do if you suspect the other custodial parent is experiencing mental health problems]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=48067 2024-11-27T13:59:08Z 2024-11-27T13:59:08Z Assessing the situation The first step you should take is hiring an attorney. This is important because a parent's mental health--and the effect it can have on a child-- is a very important matter, that you have to assess carefully and with compassion and understanding. Ask yourself if you know for sure that the other parent is ill, or if you suspect it is so. Does your child tell you things that concern you? Due to the sensitivity of the issue, it is best to have the guidance of an attorney, especially if you might end up going to court for this.

Prioritize your child

Your child's safety and security should always come first. If you have any reason to believe that your child is at risk, is not safe, has been harmed or could be harmed, take action immediately. This could mean filing an emergency motion to modify your current custody arrangements, which is why it is critical to have your attorney from the very beginning.

Open a dialogue

If you feel that it is safe and appropriate, begin a conversation with the other parent. It is always best to begin by saying that you are concerned about them, and want to know how best you can support them. Express compassion and try not to mention anything about custody--your attorney can do that if necessary.

Consult with your attorney

Again, if you have not done so already, consult with your attorney as soon as possible. Explain to them everything that is going on, show them what you have documented and get their perspective on the situation, and whether it is appropriate to seek a modification of custody. In conclusion, suspecting that your co-parent suffers from mental health--especially if it is harming your child-- can be a very difficult situation to be in. By approaching the situation with empathy, compassion, consideration and care, you will find your way through this challenge.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[Protecting your child from the stress of divorce]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=47625 2025-02-03T16:30:34Z 2024-08-13T19:49:24Z Routines Children thrive on stability and routine; change can make them uncertain and scared. Ensure you constantly reassure them and keep a stable routine, so they do not feel like their world is falling apart. If you share custody, communicate openly with the other parent to devise a plan where the child can have similar routines in both homes.

Communication

Your child may have questions and want to express their feelings about the divorce, which is sometimes uncomfortable for parents because they feel guilty and helpless. However, you are critical in this process, and your child needs you. Speak with them in a calm environment, with candor and empathy for what they are going through.

Encouraging

Encourage your child's relationship with the other parent. Remember that the divorce is between the two parents and not the children, and in most cases, children already feel guilty even though they are never at fault. Ensuring the child has a solid connection to both parents helps them feel grounded and stable.

Professional help

If needed, seek professional help from a counselor, therapist or attorney who can give you resources. They understand what you are going through and can guide you in the right direction. Even though divorce is never easy, many parents have gone through it before you, and many will after you. Children heal with time. Remember that nothing can replace your presence, so remain connected with your child, and you will see that they will continue to thrive.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[7 Tips for Posting on Social Media During Your Divorce]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=47581 2024-05-22T19:22:43Z 2024-05-22T19:22:43Z help you manage your social media presence during a sensitive time.

Think before you post

It's easy to share every thought and emotion on Instagram, X, TikTok and other social media, but during a divorce, you might want to think twice before you click. Here are seven general tips for social media usage
  • Go dark: Consider taking a break from all platforms until your divorce is finalized. This is the safest way of handling it.
  • Avoid negative posts: If you cannot stay off social media, don't use it to vent about your spouse or family. Remember, your children could see these posts. And your ex and their divorce lawyer are likely monitoring your accounts for evidence to use against you.
  • Share positivity: Therefore, try to keep your posts and comments positive. Share moments that make you smile and any details that could upset your ex or children.
  • Lockdown privacy settings: Maximize your privacy and ask friends to respect your choice not to be tagged. Even so, act with the assumption that your ex will see what you post.
  • Keep your case off the internet: Don't make your divorce proceedings any more public than they have to be. Keep information about negotiations and other legal matters offline.
  • No "revenge porn": Posting intimate photos or videos of your ex is not just disrespectful; it can also be illegal.
Reckless social media activity can come back to haunt you. For instance, posting vacation photos while claiming financial hardship in alimony discussions could weaken your position. Every image and word can be scrutinized and potentially used against you in legal proceedings.

Consult an attorney for the right social media approach

Your divorce attorney is not just your legal advisor but also a strategist for handling the public aspects of your divorce. Reach out to them for advice tailored to your unique situation, ensuring you maintain dignity and respect for all involved throughout the process.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[The “child’s best interest” standard]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=47579 2024-03-04T04:29:59Z 2024-03-04T04:29:59Z The two types of custody There are two forms of custody of a child. One type is legal custody, which determines who will make important decisions regarding the child’s life, such as medical and educational decisions. The other is physical custody, which determines with which parent the child will primarily live. The court might award a parent both legal and physical custody, but many times, custody will be mixed, such as both parents holding joint legal custody while only one parent has primary physical custody and the other visitation. To decide this, the court will consider what is in the child’s best interests.

Factors in determining what is in the child’s best interest

The court looks at many aspects of a child’s life before determining what the child’s best interests consist of. These include:
  • The child’s age and gender
  • The child’s preference about which parent they want to live with
  • The relationship between the child and each parent
  • Each parent’s ability and capability to take care of their child
  • The physical and mental health of the child and each of the parents
  • A parent’s history of domestic or child abuse or substance addiction
Judges hold the child’s best interest standard to the utmost importance since they want to ensure that their decision is focused on providing the child with a safe, stable, supportive environment. It should be an environment where the child can be happy and thrive while continuing to develop physically and mentally.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[Preparing to co-parent during the holidays]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=47576 2023-12-04T23:09:49Z 2023-12-04T23:09:49Z Focus on your children There are many ways you can focus on the children during the holidays instead of the issues that you and their co-parent might have. For example, you might begin by coordinating with your co-parent on what each of you will gift the child or by deciding to buy a more expensive present jointly. You will want to avoid competition between you and your co-parent, as the holidays should not be about one parent being perceived as better than the other. Some of the other ways you can focus on your children include:
  • Creating new holiday traditions between for you and your children
  • Helping your children choose small gifts for each other to pass on the spirit of giving
  • Planning new celebrations during the holidays around the traditional dates so you can enjoy your time together even when you do not spend it on the official holiday

Plan for the holidays

Some parents might have a holiday parenting plan included in their child custody order. In that case, that is what should be followed during this time. Other parents, however, might need to create a new holiday parenting time, including a new schedule, as the children will be off from school, and relatives from out of town might visit either parent’s family. Parents should give themselves enough time to plan to avoid surprises that might cause disagreements. Finally, you should not forget yourself during this time. Your children should also see you enjoying the holidays. While you might feel sad when you have to give up an important date every other year, you should do things you enjoy, such as visiting with friends and family and relaxing.]]> On Behalf of Law and Mediation Office of Jennifer M. Sullivan <![CDATA[The path to successfully co-parenting a special needs child]]> https://www.sullivanfamilylaw.com/?p=47573 2023-08-31T19:50:56Z 2023-08-30T19:49:15Z Maintaining effective communication Effective communication results in successful co-parenting in any situation, but it's particularly crucial when dealing with a special needs child. Both parents should openly share information about the child's medical, educational and emotional needs. Regular and honest discussions ensure that both parents are on the same page and can make informed decisions together.

Creating a stable environment

Creating a consistent routine is vital for special needs children, as it provides them with a sense of stability and predictability. Co-parents should work together to establish and maintain a routine that accommodates the child's specific needs. Sharing schedules, plans and strategies can help minimize disruptions and provide the child with a comforting environment.

Flexibility

Flexibility is also essential as special needs children might require additional medical appointments, therapies or interventions. Co-parents should be willing to adjust their schedules as necessary to guarantee the child's well-being. This might require compromise and understanding from both sides.

Working together

Collaboration extends beyond day-to-day care. Co-parents should collaborate on important decisions regarding the child's education, medical treatments and therapies. Seeking professional advice and involving the child's doctors, therapists and educators can help make well-informed choices that prioritize the child's best interests. Recognizing each other's strengths and weaknesses is an integral part of successful co-parenting. Each parent brings unique skills to the table, and acknowledging and respecting these differences can lead to a balanced partnership. Working together harmoniously, despite any personal or custody differences, is crucial for the child's sake.

Take care of yourself

Taking care of themselves is something many parents overlook while facing their co-parenting challenges. Both parents need to prioritize their own well-being to be effective caregivers. Seeking support from friends, family or therapists can help alleviate stress and prevent burnout.]]>